July 19, 2015

DIY Wedding, #1

Seeing as we've only been engaged two-ish months, I'm relatively new at the wedding thing and the wedding planning thing and the wedding organizing thing, but by God I intend to be good at it.

I have been knee deep in wedding muck since just a mere four days after Matt proposed. I have a Pinterest board, have ordered, received and read A Practical Wedding (the book and the website), and have spent hours and hours pouring over etiquette advice, inspiration boards and wedding forums courtesy of WeddingWire, WeddingBee, Offbeat Bride and TheKnot.

And while I'm not going to spill all my secrets about my DIY wedding right now (although I did make some paper flowers...) I wanted to take a minute to share some of the resources I've found that are proving to be very helpful.

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WeddingPlanning - A Reddit Community Forum
If you're not a Redditor, you should be. If you're not familiar, Reddit is what they call the "front page of the Internet" and is comprised of "subreddits" about just about any and every topic you could think of and is typically on the front end of every new technology, news story, trend, fad or joke out there.

Of the many places within the realms of Reddit, the WeddingPlanning sub is one of my favorites. Bless the hearts of these kind souls that live there. They call them Wedditors and for good reason. Some of them a "lurkers" and some of them post regularly. Some ask questions, some give answers, some offer to make stuff (invitations, bouquets, veils, dresses even) for free and for the most part, they are happy-go-lucky folks with good advice. Need to rant about your family's bad behavior? Dying to show someone, anyone your dress? Need help finding this exact dress or this exact belt and have no idea where to look and Google reverse image search is JUST NOT CUTTING IT? Reddit almost always the answer.

Thumbtack - Professional Finder
I stumbled on this site via the Reddit wedding forum (see above) but felt I should include it separately just in case you (or your-friend-who-is-about-to-get-married-and-just-won't-shut-up-about-it) didn't know about it. Thumbtack allows you to type in the type of professional (or amateur professional if you're not so picky) you need and throw down a few details about your day or your needs and let them come to you. I am finding this site to be particularly handy because we have a pretty strict budget and I'm in the market for serious deals! You're probably thinking, "duh, Kristy, that's what Google is for," and you're right. Google is great for searching, but nearly every search leads to the top contenders in the market area - and those ones are not usually your most budget-friendly options. The pros on Thumbtack look at what you need and make offers and you can decide if you want to hire them or not. Very helpful, especially for you wedding folks that are planning your shindigs out of town and need some local help.

A Practical Wedding - Genuinely Awesome Wedding Advice
This website is proving to be the most valuable for actual, good, down to earth wedding advice. Basically the whole website (and the book, go read the book!) explain that what makes a wedding isn't what kind of dress you wear or the flavor of your cake or what color scheme you choose, but that at the end of the day it's all about what you feel. Weddings are about friends, family and happy times and most importantly, marrying the person you love - not about the things. Just think about the last wedding you went to. What was the color scheme? Do you remember what the center pieces looked like? How about what kind of flowers they had? Most of us can't remember the details. But do we know we had a fabulous time? Absolutely (hopefully).

The site gives great tips on how to get started, how to deal with difficult friends/family, how to manage your guest list, what you can accomplish within your budget, how to do-it-yourself, and the ladies who run the site are fairly amusing folks. They also assure you that it's okay to have a kid-free, cake-free, lawn-game-friendly wedding and that inviting your Great Aunt Kathy who you've only met once (at your third birthday) is totally, absolutely unnecessary.

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So far I'm having a blast trying to plan and figure out exactly what we want and how to accomplish it and these various wedding portals have had a huge hand in that. Have we had semi-heated discussions about the guest list? I'd be lying if I said no. Have I had to put my foot down about a handful of things that we want or don't want with friends and family? Definitely. But if at the end of it all, we've had one of the best days of our lives - well then, I think I've accomplished what I set out to do. (And I absolutely cannot wait!)



  1. Somewhere you are right dear but planning your wedding yourself can be hard and that is why I will suggest you to hire best Chicago event space. I am sure he will be able to help you with planning every single thing.

    1. Thanks for the tip, Mark! I've got a great girl that's helping me coordinate already, but I'll keep your recommendation in mind for the future!



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